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Chris Nathan's avatar

Thank you for writing this article, for your work on behalf of legal reform for people with disabilities, but most of all for a lifetime of love and dedication to your son Adam.

The diverse population of people who read this website could hardly be grouped into any single political or ideological category, but it is still probably safe to say that we share a commitment to having the world unfold in a way that is better than it is now: less ugly, less cruel, less unjust. One of the things that seems reliably to move things at least a little in that direction is authentic contact with another person’s actual lived experience. We don’t seem to get that from logic or reason - as valuable and critical as they are - but the story of an actual person changes something in a fundamental way. We’ll never meet you or your husband or Adam but in a sense readers of your short article now know the three of you better than people we’ve talked to regularly for years. I don’t mean to be proscriptive. Nor do I suggest that people ought to suddenly raise the degree to which they take others into their confidence. Nonetheless, authenticity matters. It moves something in us. It makes us think. It makes us quieter, and we need that if there is to be any lasting progress.

Reasonable people can disagree about the particulars of legal reform with respect to people with disabilities, the likelihood of unintended consequences, and the unavoidable tradeoffs between justice and security. What we cannot do, after reading your story, is to persist in thinking of the people whom those generalized categories affect as cartoon figures. Thank you for making Adam real, and pushing all of the tangled mess in our legal institutions a little closer to the ideal of justice we all aim for.

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Katha Pollitt's avatar

What you are going through is terrible. Thank you for writing about it. You are educating a lot of people.

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