Ken Rosenfeld's advice, "Describe your perspective and your concerns and, if they offer their own, hear them out," is missing the crucial understanding of listening. How about starting with inviting others' "perspectives and concerns" and truly listening. Skip the narcism of beginning with your own POV.
Agree that starting with the other person’s perspective is helpful/preferred but I would neither say that the advice Is missing listening (“hear them out”) nor does it mean that someone is narcissistic to start with their POV first (remember she advised her to seek these folks out; plus narcissism infers that by leading with your POV that your interest in engagement is not an earnest one). I only raise the point as I think the advice is good and very much needed and I am concerned that your comment could leave the wrong impression as to the substance of the advice. Regardless, listening and building trust are the key entry points for these types of conversations.
I agree with the problem of introducing every course with that stern acknowledgement of racism. But it is important to discuss racism at the beginning of a course on Race or Diversity or Race, Class and Gender or other similar courses.
Lets hear it for us non-golfers ....... and non-gazillionaires...
Fun column Kat. Wanting to read it tipped me over the edge into finally subscribing. Looking forward to more, cheers to more sanity.
This is a great idea. Looking forward to reading more of these!
Ken Rosenfeld's advice, "Describe your perspective and your concerns and, if they offer their own, hear them out," is missing the crucial understanding of listening. How about starting with inviting others' "perspectives and concerns" and truly listening. Skip the narcism of beginning with your own POV.
Agree that starting with the other person’s perspective is helpful/preferred but I would neither say that the advice Is missing listening (“hear them out”) nor does it mean that someone is narcissistic to start with their POV first (remember she advised her to seek these folks out; plus narcissism infers that by leading with your POV that your interest in engagement is not an earnest one). I only raise the point as I think the advice is good and very much needed and I am concerned that your comment could leave the wrong impression as to the substance of the advice. Regardless, listening and building trust are the key entry points for these types of conversations.
I agree with the problem of introducing every course with that stern acknowledgement of racism. But it is important to discuss racism at the beginning of a course on Race or Diversity or Race, Class and Gender or other similar courses.
It's the refinement to the limitations it places on artists and thinkers for which I am most grateful. L&B&L